Being Better Everyday

What sounds more tougher?
Living alone or being dependent on someone who might as well leave your site at any point?
What teaches us humans to be independent? In my opinion you can never be independent when you rely on other people. In my words I like to call such people crippled. What matters the most is putting yourself first before others. You might say that sounds very selfish. Indeed! You need to learn how to be selfish and tough. Thats the first step towards self-love. Learn how to say "NO" to people. Don't be too available for anyone in this world.  You really need to fall in love with yourself and your hobbies.

Ask yourself... Do you think you have pampered yourself enough? If you completed an assignment or homework do give yourself a pat on the back and buy yourself some chocolate and ice cream. You should always consider treating yourself.  If you think you are really good at something do invest some time on it. Try to be better at it ... Try to increase your skills everyday. If you are good at cooking be better  at it , watch some youtube videos and improve yourself. Seek towards perfection, you may not be perfect but atleast you tried. Find your hobby, keep experimenting with yourself, pursue what you want not what others want for you :)

Boost your self esteem! I know a lot of people are shy so am I but you really need to work on that confidence to build yourself . You need to kill all thouse negative thoughts that keep approaching you and seek positivity. You need to know your own principles are live them in real life. Dress as you like, go out bare face, fall in love with your own skin, stroll around in your pajamas or you can maintain a diary to share your thoughts.Talk to yourself!! I know it sounds crazy but trust me sometimes talking to yourself is the best therapy. Give yourself the talk-treatment and stand in front of a mirror and speak up. You got this!

Do not ever be jealous of someone, always be happy for other people. Only you are capable of judging yourself. If you think you are not doing well in life now, who knows you might do well in the upcoming days. Not everything you see in social media or what people are trying to show you is real. Everybody is fighting with something or in other words everyone in this world goes through struggles. This struggle is an experience and smile through it. Don't let it depress you but let the difficulty become a part of your learning experience and make you more stronger. They say " What doesn't kill you, makes you stronger,"

You must stand up for yourself. If somebody is trying to put you down, never let it go. Be open to constructive criticism but do not let others attack you. Some people tend to grow on weaker people like parasites and wants to make sure that you always feel worse. Such people makes you a pawn to feel better about themselves. Cut contact with such companions, you would rather have enemies. Be defensive if you feel somebody is trying to put you down. Just be true to yourself even if you are perfect you will be judged. Be around people who motivates you, who gives you compliment even if you are dressed worse, who are positive and most importantly those who are true to you and never left your side when you struggled.

Do not expect anything from others. Yes as I said earlier learn to say "NO". If you did something nice for somebody, do keep it in your own record. You are kind and generous but never expect the other to do the same for you. People will disappoint you hence it is better not to expect at all. If you learn this you will never be disapointed.

Be emotionally independent. I know this is the toughest part. We tend to be too emotional about everything. Sometimes we even have attachment towards a pillow cover but you really need a take a control over your emotions and decide on things which are the best for you. No matter what never let emotions stop you from doing the things you want to achieve. Your dreams are bigger than those tear that rolls down your face. Mental health is very important to lead a happy life.

Lastly, make your parents proud and learn bits and pieces about life from them. They have a lot of experience from life and your parents will reach out to you with the best advices, Lean on them and share your thoughts with them. They are the best to help you when you are facing difficulty :)
Building yourself from scratch starts with them. Be thankful for everything and enjoy your life to the fullest.